If you build it, they will come… and… then what?

I am not one to make New Years resolutions. As I see it, I am setting myself up for failure by making goals I have no intention of meeting. You know, like losing weight, spending less, or looking for the good in the “other” political party.

For many years I would quit drinking. A New Year’s Eve hangover was the catalyst for that and it usually lasted as long. I have found that taking things “One Day At A Time” I was able to accomplish some much needed sobriety.

I don’t drink today. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring but as long as it is today, I don’t drink. What a good use for procrastination. Getting involved and helping secure the future of the Elgin Alano Club is not a good use of procrastination. The club needs my help NOW. EAC has squeaked by another year by just about breaking-even. By that, I mean we didn’t always bring in as much as we spent. (Rent can be a bitch, right.)

drive_pledge_king_dungeon_681825[1]There are ways we can improve the EAC experience but it takes your help.

In the New Year I would hope to see:
1. Membership growth.
2. Increased attendance at club functions and fundraisers.
3. Feedback through suggestions on how EAC can improve YOUR sober experience.
4. A show of pride by keeping the club and outside areas clean.
5. Responsible members seeking ways they can help the EAC board make our club the best club ever.

I wanted to think of 12 things but I didn’t want to lessen the importance of these things by being funny. This is a serious matter. Without the increased interest in membership and increased interest in working with the board, EAC may see another end.

In the glass case there are 2 coffee mugs from 1989. EAC went through this before. It took around 15 years before the club started up again. Those of us who have been there do not want to see this happen again. It does not have to.

– Jim H.
Vice Chair, Elgin Alano Club

12 Ideas to help stay sober during the holidays

Remaining sober can be especially hard during the holidays.  Family gatherings, holiday parties, and other social occasions can be very difficult for someone who is in early recovery.  Thoughts of past holiday occasions often bring up memories of celebratory drinking, drugs, or gambling.

Although it can be very hard to get used to the idea of a sober holiday season, especially when other people around you are seemingly having a great time celebrating by using substances or gambling, completing a stay at a treatment center is an accomplishment that you should be proud of.

Take this opportunity to celebrate not only the holidays, but also your new life of sobriety, which is something really worth celebrating.

If you find yourself struggling during the holiday season, please remember that you are not alone.  Help is only a phone call or meeting away!  Here are some helpful and practical tips to make staying sober easier:

1 Plan each and every day of your holiday season:
  Plan to spend the majority of your time with friends and family who are supportive of your recovery.

2 Find a meeting in your area: Many groups have special meetings during the holidays to share their experience, strength and hope. Check the local papers for a meeting in your area.

3 Ask for support from family and friends: Those who are truly supportive of your recovery will be happy to help you throughout the holidays.

4 Have a list of ten people you can call: Make a list and check it twice. Carry your cell phone and list of names at all times.

5 Don’t forget about regular exercise: Regular exercise is an essential component of any balanced recovery program.

6 Stay away from slippery places: There is absolutely no reason to ever check out your former favorite establishments.

7 Create new traditions to replace your old using patterns: Buy a new board game or take the family on a sleigh ride.  Use your imagination, be creative, & have fun.

8 Write out a daily gratitude list: The quickest cure to get you out of the holiday blues is by counting your blessings and being grateful for what you have every morning.

9 Volunteer your services to a charitable organization: There are many people in your community who are less fortunate than you. You will be helping not only the needy but yourself!

10 Write a letter to yourself – “How I stayed sober over the holidays:” The act of writing your ideas on paper is very powerful. Write down all the activities and events that will help you have healthy, happy, and sober holiday season.

11 Avoid H.A.L.T. (Hungry, Angry, Lonely , Tired):  If you are hungry, get something to eat. If you are angry, talk to somebody about it.  If you are lonely, go to a meeting or call a friend.  If you are tired, get a good night’s sleep.

12 Live one day at a time and enjoy your sobriety: Stay in the moment and live one day at a time. Never mind about what happened or what could happen. Enjoy today. Live today. Celebrate your sobriety!